Sadie and Jarvis Sampson have been trying for years to ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇ a child naturally since they got married in January 2018. They tried everything, until they resigned themselves and began to think that it would be just uncle and aunt. But then they got a message that changed their lives overnight.
“Oᴠᴜʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴ tests, prenatal vitamins, period monitoring apps, ꜰᴇʀᴛɪʟɪᴛʏ ᴅᴇᴛᴇᴄᴛᴏʀs,” Houston’s mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family and strangers, but it didn’t work. We tried, prayed and waited for 14 months. Month after month, negative pregnancy test after negative pregnancy test, it looked like we needed help ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠɪɴɢ. We also talked about it with the doctors.”
The doctors didn’t seem to offer much help to the couple. They all told Sadie to lose weight in order to ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇ. Therefore, having received no further advice, the woman underwent surgery on her stomach and lost 15 kg.
Her gynecologist was very happy with her weight loss and told Sadie she was very proud of her. But Sadie sadly couldn’t get pregnant, as she hoped, even after the weight loss. “I always felt like I was born to be a mother,” Sadie said. “My surgeon assured me that after the operation I would be very ꜰᴇʀᴛɪʟᴇ, yet I was not pregnant anyway. So we gave up. We realized that we were meant to be simply the uncle and aunt of our nieces.”
Just as the couple decided to give up, Sadie received a message from a friend asking if they would be interested in fostering a child. At first she and her husband hesitated because the social worker told them they would only look after the baby as long as the birth mother was being treated. They were afraid of becoming too attached, but then the story changed.
“We have gone from not having children, to the possibility of taking one into foster care, to ‘Guys, you will be parents!’ in just one day. I listened to the social worker speak, still incredulous. Then I hung up to call my husband.”
The following week, they told them that the birth mother not only wanted them to adopt her child, but also that she was ready for an independent adoption and would sign on the same day.
“The baby was born at 33 weeks, seven weeks early. He weighed less than 2kg and was literally in my husband’s hand,” Sadie wrote. “It was tiny, wrapped in the blue and pink striped blanket,” Sadie added. “He had a tube sticking out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own because he was premature. But for God’s sake he was cute!”
The couple shared the news on social media and was recommended an archive. Ezra Lee’s adoption was completed in October 2020. The family took pictures of her wearing T-shirts that read “Families Don’t Have to Be Equal”.
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became the parents of twins, Journee and Destinee, thanks to the donation of ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏs. Staying true to their motto, Families don’t have to be the same, the two black spouses became parents of three white children, one boy and two girls. For whoever judges them, they have only one answer: their family is built on one of the most solid foundations in the world, love.