Becoming a mother is certainly one of the most beautiful experiences in a woman’s life, but it is also something extraordinary and sʜᴏᴄᴋɪɴɢ that completely changes one’s habits. Yet being able to keep some space for yourself is important so as not to forget that in addition to being a mother, she is also a woman.
However, when you share your own experience outside the family, you are ᴄʀɪᴛɪᴄɪᴢᴇᴅ by many people. That’s what happened to Ashy Bines, a 33-year-old fitness influencer from the Gold Coast, Australia, who recounted on Instagram about the weekend she spent with her friends after leaving the kids at home with their dad.
Ashy has two children, a 7-year-old and a 4-month-old. The mother finally manages to organize a moment all for herself, and, thanks to the support of her husband, she carves out 48 hours to spend with her friends, leaving her children with their father.
This share posted on social media has become a real target against her. Many people, especially women, have sharply ᴄʀɪᴛɪᴄɪᴢᴇᴅ her action. Leaving a four-month-old baby with her dad is still inexplicable today.
The influencer had to make a post on Instagram to defend himself against the numerous accusations.
“Moments before I balled my eyes out at the airport, leaving my baby for nearly 48 hours,… I’ve got this ! Feels like an arm is missing but dad is sending me loads of videos and nailing solo dad life lol! So lucky to have my family.
I know judgment has come flying my way leaving her for 48 hours BUT hear me out.
I LOVE my baby but also LOVE my friends.
I LOVE my baby but also love travel and variety.
I LOVE my baby but also love doing fun things just for me.
I LOVE my baby and fully trust and love Steve having his bonding time with the kids and can enjoy myself knowing they are happy and safe!”
With these few lines, Ashy has made the situation clear. But still, when she reads comments like “How could you leave your baby with Steve for that long that’s so wrong”, she leaves very surprised. She added, “I think it’s wrong for other women to think it’s wrong and send such a message and also why would I have children with someone I don’t trust. Wrong to leave my kids with their dad?
If a dad went away for 48 hours he’s never even questioned ?
Mummas let’s be kind to one another and not project or send hate to another mum who’s doing her thing. Might not feel right for you and that’s ok, we all do exactly what feels good for us.”
In the end, she said, “This message didn’t upset me at all , not in the slightest, but did inspire me to write this caption to have a conversation or create awareness for mummas, and remind other mums its ok for you to have a life and enjoy other parts of your life not just mum life OR just need a break.”
Mothers and fathers have the same rights and duties to their children, as well as the same desire to carve out some time for themselves. And there’s nothing wrong with that.