Lan Ma is a 53-year-old woman who gave birth to her last child completely alone, without needing a man next to her. She was already the mother of two grown-up boys, who are now 19 and 17 years old. When she reached the age of 50, she decided she wanted to expand the family but without “amorous” ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴs. So she decided to resort to I.V.F and she welcomed first a boy, who is now 4 years old, and then a baby girl, just 1. And she’s not worried that she’ll be 70 when they’re 20.
Every woman is aware of what she wants and what she doesn’t want from life. Even when it comes to her body, every woman often knows what is best for her. Although we know that ꜰᴇᴍᴀʟᴇ ꜰᴇʀᴛɪʟɪᴛʏ does not last forever but peaks between the ages of 20 and 30, starting to decline from this moment until ᴍᴇɴᴏᴘᴀᴜsᴇ, more and more women close to 50 decide to become mothers. For the first time or not, we even went without having a man next to us to make this dream come true together.
Lan Ma decided that she would become a single mom without the need for a partner. In 2018 seeing her older children taking their own paths and no longer needing her, she realized that she still had a lot of love to give. The same one she gave to Thomas, now 19, and Tyler, now 17, at the age of 30. She wanted to raise her family, even though she was not married and had no partner.
She spent $25,000 on obtaining sᴘᴇʀᴍ and ᴇɢɢs from unknown donors and on ᴅʀᴜɢs. This was followed by another $3,500 for the ꜰʀᴏᴢᴇɴ ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏs and transfer to her ᴜᴛᴇʀᴜs. In 2018 at the age of 50 Lan Ma gave birth to Toby. But she didn’t want to stop there and even her older children encouraged her to give a little brother or sister to the youngest of the house.
“Since I still felt young, I accepted, because it wouldn’t have been right for Toby to grow up alone,” she said.
Lan Ma got pregnant again in February 2021 and chose the same donor that allowed her to hug Toby. At 53, her pregnancy went very well, she was in excellent shape and perfectly healthy.
When she finally held Tara, his last daughter, in her arms, she said, “For me, age is just a number.”
Toby and Tara look identical, they have the same hair color and the same nose. Currently, at 53, she will be raising two little ones again and she is not worried that by the time they are 20 she will be 70. She just enjoys her new motherhood at the age of 50.